Stop Doing This Shit or Stay Single Forever Part - 1
Most Men Stay Single Because of These Bad Habits
(Disclaimer: Most of you know the drill. I’m not gonna pacify your feelings for this one. I’m not mincing my words today; buckle up and focus. This article is for change, dedication, and results. If sensitive language and stern words make you nervous, stop reading. You’re not ready.
Please, for the love of God, all things holy, stop making these rookie mistakes and pull up your trousers, tighten that belt, grab your balls, and take some kind of control over the decisions YOU make and learn to date better. I say this with all the unbridled macho love in my heart for you, cause I know you can change and be the badass motherfucker you’ve always been deep down.
Please believe me when I say this, no woman will respect a man who cannot command himself as sure as I know the sun rises every morning. I know discipline separates the forgotten from the formidable.
These mistakes are easily avoidable if you actually take time to be self-reflective, develop mastery of this, and remember that it’s not just about skills in the realm of dating; these are interpersonal tools that will make your personal life so much easier. Your mastery isn’t a trophy to display; it’s the quiet confidence of knowing your hands can build and break.
I care so much about this; this will be a series with five parts posted every other day, filled with value and tips to ensure you actually practice this! After all, strength is forged in repetition, not blind revelation.
Let’s fucking GO!
1. Being The Hyper Agreeable Easy Option.
Any man who agrees with everything stands for nothing.
Today, in the dating world where neediness is scorned, you may find yourself playing it cool, suppressing your true feelings for fear of being labeled “needy,” so instead, you just agree with everything she says. This façade can lead to passive misunderstandings and an “ick” like resentment, and you may end up looking even more paper thin cause most women can see right past that shit. A spine unbent is a man unseen. She may assume you’re just like every other butt kiss.
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
— Carl Jung
They know why you’re doing it. They know why you’re lips are super glued to her ass cheeks. It’s simple, fellas; those who never challenge are never chosen. The psychological term that they use for this is called “self-monitoring.” This is the tendency to adjust your behavior to fit different social situations.
Trying to be something you’re not in the dating world is like choreographing a shitty dance for TikTok, obsessing over every move to appear effortlessly cool. But just as viewers can sense when a dance lacks any real fluidity and finesse, a woman can feel when your actions are made just so you’ll agree with her, so she’ll like you and sleep with you. Authenticity, not practiced perfection, leads to what you want.
Do you want to look like this?
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A poll conducted by the dating app Bumble found that 70% of women said they would be turned off by a man who was constantly trying to please them. In Tinder’s 2021 Dating Trends Report, in a survey of 5,000 users, 62% of women said they “swipe left” on profiles that seem “too eager to please” (e.g., bios with phrases like “I’ll agree to anything!” or “Your interests = my interests”). A study analyzing 2,000+ participants found that 65% of women rated “authenticity” as more attractive than “agreeableness” in long-term partners. Participants perceived overly accommodating behavior as “low self-esteem” or “manipulative” in 58% of cases.
Knock it off.
Don’t just do it to attract women, but have some self-respect and a little bit of pride in who you are. Any man who trims his soul to fit a woman’s liking will soon find he has nothing left to cut.
“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, resentment, and inexplicable rage.”
— Brené Brown
“Get Your Reps In”
Growth comes from practical repetition. Here’s how you do it.
As George Bernard Shaw said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” Embrace true vulnerability and voice your authentic and raw feelings — learn to walk with your head held high and optimism off the Richter scale that makes you a magnetic force to be reckoned with. Authenticity is not a gamble — it is the filter that separates those who deserve you from those who never could. Any woman who actually likes you will honor your standards, so don’t feel like you have to agree on everything.
How to Build an Unshakable Presence in Dating
Here’s how to drop the “yes-man” act and develop a confident, authentic presence that attracts women who actually like you.
1. Identify and Stand by Your Values
🚨 Proven Concept — Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan, 1985)
Women are biologically wired to seek security in a partner, not just physical security but emotional and psychological security. A man who bends too easily lacks the backbone to provide that; women can smell that a mile away.
✅ Take Action — Write down your non-negotiables in relationships. Whether it’s your stance on personal ambition, family values, or communication style, hold firm on what matters to you. Type it in your notes app if that’s easier.
2. Drop the Need for External Validation
🚨 Proven Concept — The Paradox of Approval (Baumeister, 1999)
Chasing approval actually lowers your perceived value. People are drawn to confidence, not compliance.
✅ Take Action: Before responding to a woman’s opinion, pause. Do you actually agree, or are you just afraid of conflict? Are you just trying to get her to like you? Speak your truth with clarity, deep respect, and confidence.
3. Use Authentic Disagreement to Build Attraction
🚨 Proven Concept — The Contrast Principle (Cialdini, 1984)
Slight disagreements make you more interesting and respected. Women are attracted to men who can hold their own in conversation, not those who fold like a cheap Walmart suit under the slightest pressure. However, use this sparingly and don’t abuse it by looking like a douchebag who just likes to pushback.
✅ Take Action — The next time she shares an opinion, instead of nodding like an NFL bobblehead collectible, offer a thoughtful counterpoint. Example: If she says, “I think people should just go with the flow,” respond with, “I get that, but I believe great things come from intention, not just letting life happen to you. What do you think?”
4. Develop the Charisma of an Assertive Leader
🚨 Proven Concept — The Power of Indifference (Mehrabian, 1971)
Women respond positively to men who lead interactions rather than react to them. This doesn’t mean being dismissive; it means owning your space in the conversation. Have some great questions prepared.
✅ Take Action — When planning a date, don’t ask, ‘What do you want to do?’ Instead, say, “I know a great spot for cocktails. Let’s check it out at 7.” Leading shows confidence and eliminates decision fatigue. Most women will love this!
5. Be Comfortable with Silence
🚨 Proven Concept — The Principle of Scarcity (Cialdini, 1984)
People chase what feels rare and valuable. If you’re constantly talking to fill space, you subconsciously communicate that you fear losing her interest. Relax, give her some eye contact, listen, speak less, and enjoy her aura. Scarcity breeds desire; a man of few words commands the most attention.
✅ Take Action — The next time there’s a lull in conversation, embrace it. Let her fill the gap. It subconsciously shifts the dynamic in your favor. Doing this is a little scary at first, but when she fills in the spaces and tries to get to know you, there’s a shocking level of confidence that overwhelms the best part of your brain, knowing you’re getting better at dating. The rarest metal is never loud — it is sought, valued, and held with reverence.
You’re Wolverine, filled with adamantium!
So what does this all mean?
Authenticity Filters Out the Wrong People
If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells or agree with everything she says just to keep her interested, she’s not the right woman for you, and to be honest, you gotta toughen up a little. I get it. I’ve been there where I wanted a woman so bad as she physically ticks all my boxes or seems great on paper, but get into the habit of being yourself and not spending any further time with women you don’t click with. If you trade authenticity for approval, you will lose both.
So stop playing small. Confidence isn’t arrogance, it’s the courage to be yourself, no matter who’s watching.
“It is not the critic who counts; […] The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena […] who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again […] but who does actually strive to do the deeds.”
— Theodore Roosevelt