The Only Thing Uglier Than Modern Dating Are Your Shitty Excuses

A lot can be accomplished in one year. You can try a sport you’ve always wanted to start and become great at it.

You can start a great new routine and affect your mood and stress at a deep level.

You can meditate for a few minutes per day, become more self-aware, and change the way you react to problems.

You can start a modest business and make it a big success.

One year is nothing and extremely easy to waste, but with small actions, a compound effect, substantial commitment, and consistency, you can make it count a lot. Eliminate distractions and focus on what truly matters because time wasted now is progress stolen from your future.

The clock’s ticking, so quit scrolling like time is infinite and start acting like your future depends on it — because it does.

Especially when it comes to dating.

When you find her, you realize this. That life with another person is always worth it in the long run. The best things in life require commitment, effort, and the courage to trust someone fully, which starts with trusting in YOURSELF first and not letting yourself down.

Moving towards your dating goals every single day is plenty of time. If you do this, you’ll be ready when the year is up for someone awesome, or you might meet them in the middle of the process. Whatever it is by small and simple things are great things brought to pass!

Small daily actions are like good pickup lines — when done right, they make a big impact over time.

Train your mind to be ready

It’s just a matter of perspective.

There is nothing that cannot be accomplished in one year with enough effort. You are not too old for the person you’ve been dreaming of. I always believe as much as time is running out, there will always be opportunities, oh man, I wish you knew! I wish you knew the road to your goals may be long, but every step forward brings you closer, and the beauty of persistence is that it turns impossibilities into the best inevitabilities.

You can develop yourself to genuinely being one of the most incredible catches if you really want to. I sincerely mean this! Don’t let your past dictate who you are. You don’t have to be the same person you have always been. Make 2025 a year for modest, gradual, and realistic change.

Don’t let fear control you. Don’t let social standards mold your own personality. You really have to go for what feels right for you. We should all empower our uniqueness and fight against our own limitations. Especially the ones that surround our minds.

Your mind is both your fortress and your cage; to conquer the world, you must first conquer the battles within.

Never limit yourself to what you can have. I need you to believe this.

By doing things you love on a daily basis, even for a few minutes, you’ll learn to enjoy the journey. That’s what I want dating to be for you in 2025. Don’t see it as an arduous task or a means to an end. But simply enjoy the journey.

You’ll see yourself evolving because your mindset has changed, and you’ll start to get closer to what you actually want because that positive paradigm will spread far beyond how your live but will show people without you even saying anything that you’re now on a different level of being human. You’re a rarity that 1% of people who lead with their soul and not with worthless materialistic things in the long run.

If you had the choice between feeling great, energetic, and in a positive mood versus feeling sleepy and moody, what would you choose?

It’s just a choice, which, combined with small, even tiny actions like reducing meat or alcohol consumption or simply drinking more water, walking the stairs, or biking to the office, you can do wonders.

You must apply that compounding effect to your modern dating life — just one small step at a time. Small changes here and small changes there will mean by the time 2026 comes around, you’ll be a completely new person, whether single or not. Modern dating is a lot like building IKEA furniture — one small piece at a time, and eventually, you’ll have something solid (hopefully with no extra screws left over).

Beauty will always lie in the attempt

Just remember, life is and will always be far more rewarding to those who actually try. To those who actually made a continuous effort to do and be better. For those who were bold enough not to give up.

So many people write articles on why giving up is okay and why you don’t have to be your best or try and improve.

Cause they can’t.

They can’t reach past a ceiling in their life, and they want you to be just as stuck as they are.

It’s not just about the end goal of building a life with someone. It’s about daily actions towards it. It’s also the reason why morning routines or 10 minutes daily meditation sessions bring such significant changes in terms of mood, productivity, stress management, et cetera.

I’ll never forget when I went over to a group of smoking hot women at a bar, straight from a magazine. One of them, before I even said anything, said, “We’re not interested!!!”

I motioned with my beer and said, “No worries, have a good night.”

One guy in my friend group made fun of me. Said I looked stupid, and I challenged him to go speak to another group…

Friend (laughing)
“Broooo, you really walked up just to get cooked like that? before you even opened your mouth? Damn, you looked stupid.”

Me (calmly sipping your beer):
“Alright billy big bollocks, lets see you go approach some chicks?”

Friend (defensive):
“Nah man, I’m just saying, you flopped big dawg. You gotta read the room.”

Me (grinning):
“Bitch, you’ve been reading the room for an hour and still ain’t done shit. Go introduce yourself to someone, I dare you!”

Friend (shrugs, half-laughing):
“Nah man, I’m just chillin’. Not really feelin’ it tonight.”

Me (leaning in, deadpan):
“Of course you’re not. Always the pussies that wanna talk shit.”

Friend (mock offense):
“Alright, man, alright. Relax. I was just kidding”

Me (smirking):
“I alright you little cunt, chill, what you drinking? Next rounds on me”.

He looked dumb cause he never even had the balls to TRY! No one remembers the coward; they remember the attempt. Courage gets clowned by cowards until it wins. Then it gets copied.

Monitor your days. Don’t read articles that just blame everything on the world, the men, the women or refuse to ask you for accountability. They don’t help. They might pacify your pain, but they won’t work in the long run.

Take back control of your health, mood, and time — practice gratefulness. See the results in one year. Be kind to people.

I’m asking you to start from scratch and allow endless streams of positivity to cloud that lovely noggin of years.

Stop judging all the “red flags” with every first date and try to see the good in them; remember that you willingly chose to take time out of your day to go meet them, so try to see them in the most favorable light unless proven otherwise. I know it’s the unpopular, boring non-polarizing opinion these days, but being kind and friendly can bring you more respect from people who surround you than being an over-opinionated and judgey pillock.

Learn to say no often for the right reasons.

People will accept it more and value your yes more because your time’s value will increase. You don’t need to be scary to be respected. But you have to first respect your own boundaries enough and be ballsy enough to say no verbally. Not “I’m not sure” or “maybe,” These are teenage responses. But a definitive action or response that respects your peace. It’s about building trust and healthy long-term relationships; if done correctly, this will work. Try this, and one year from now, your reality will be so different.

Love and trust others. Enough for one year, then continue that for another ten years, and you’ll learn that relationship success is not an event; it’s a process. This mindset and all the actions are putting you in the position of succeeding. All actions make huge differences. Look at yourself in the mirror one year from now, and you’ll know that you made every day count.

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Thanks for reading,

Your friend.

Mav